an honest question for polyamorous people that i couldn’t get off my mind last night:

how do you feel about the quote “if you ever find yourself stuck between two people, go for the second. because if you truly loved the first person, you wouldn’t have fallen in love with the second.” ??? i imagine that most poly people love their partners equally, so do you ever feel guilty that you might not love your first partner as much as the subsequent partners, because you feel in love with them later??

ahhh i hope this makes sense. please don’t take my words the wrong way; i just couldn’t stop thinking about this, and i’m curious to hear what others think!!